Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Unconditional Love

As most of my frequent readers know, I have been on a search for love for a while now.  And being as it is Valentine's Day, I thought I should reflect on that a bit.

People wonder all the time what love is.  Will they know it's love when they find it?  Is there such things as true love, soul mates, and love at first sight?

All I have to do is look in my children's eyes to know that there is.

And maybe that's why I struggle a bit.  I'm not sure I'll ever find a love so true, pure, and unconditional as the love that I feel for my children.

Really, is there a love out there as unconditional?

Think about it....

Brian wakes me up at 2:00 in the morning for the day and I still want to cuddle with him and I laugh at every silly sound he makes.  If a man woke me up for the day at 2:00 in the morning I'd punch him in the face.

They both don't clean up after themselves and make a million of unnecessary messes a day and I just go along with the flow and even laugh at the fact that cleaning a house with them around is like nailing jello to a tree.  If a man made messes 24/7 and didn't clean up after himself, I'd show him the door.

Corbin has quite the knack for whining, despite my age-old "Whining doesn't work in this house!".  Yet, I wait him out until he's ready to discuss the situation with me in a reasonable way.  If a man started whining at me, I'd tell him to fix his own problems.

Brian loves to have meltdowns in a public place.  I kneel down on his level and help block out whatever sensory stimulation is overloading him and carry him out of the environment.  I apply deep pressure and speak in a low voice until he is calm and then I smother him with love.  If a man tried to have a meltdown in a public place, I'd leave him there to be ridiculed.

When Brian first touched my cheek and independently told me, "I yuv you", I honestly felt my heart enlarge.  I felt shivers throughout my body, every hair follicle was standing on end, and my eyes rimmed with tears.  Could a man say anything that would rival that?

Who knows?  I'm not giving up and I'm still waiting for my Prince Charming (who knows? I could have already met him).....but until then, I have two awesome Valentine dates that really could surpass any man out there.

Happy Valentine's Day!


Jen Troester said...

Punch him in the face...that made me crack up. Here's the thing...you will never love a man as much as you love your kids. Just hope to find someone you love kinda sorta as much ;) Happy Valentine's Day!!!! 

Heather St. Clair said...

Haha, punch in the face might've been too harsh...that was my lack of sleep talking ;)

Happy Valentine's Day Jen!!

Lana Rush said...

Sounds like your little men are preparing you for your Prince Charming.  Just show each man you meet this post.  If one of them reads it and can agree to your "terms", he's the one!  :)